how do you change the load order for oblivion mods

erm with OMM, click on the little box thing down the bottem-left-hand-near-corner and change it to Load order then click on the mod you want to move to highlight it then click on the Move up or Move Down boxes.

i think thats the right answer for you anyway

FCOM Helper is a utility for Oblivion that will Load-order your mods based upon what they actually change within the game. FCOM Helper

Please read the Description for it closely, as there is a URL in there for you to copy & paste into your address bar so you can get the Microsoft C++ files it needs in order to run on your PC.

You run it from the Oblivion\Data folder by the .BAT file (not the .EXE!!). If you've done everything correctly, Notepad will open up with your load-order results, and then you'll notice a quick flash (text files being written to your drive).

OBMM is the Oblivion Mod Manager. A fine utility to use. OBMM Download

Self-installer works best.

It needs Microsoft .NET Framework Version 2.0 to run. That should be easy enough for you to find.
(btw, after installing Microsoft .NET Framework Version 2.0, run Microsoft Update & click the "Custom" button. This is so you will see any patches or security fixes you'll need to install for it.)

You run OBMM after FCOM Helper is finished, then close it after about 10 seconds. Reason: Oblivion uses a hidden file (Plugins.txt) that lists all your DLCs & mods. It will load using the order in that file. OBMM will modify that list so it will have the FCOM Helper load-order.

Like the other member said, after booting OBMM, your .esp files will be listed on the left side. A small window at the bottom can have "load order" placed within it. Left-click an .esp file, then click "move up" or "move down".

Lower files take precedence. Load-order can be a dangerous area. This is why utilities such as FCOM Helper are very useful. I use OBMM to move the "nVidia Black Screen Fix" mod down to a lower listing, so it will override mods that change variables that can result in black screens.