my father has recently died i just need help on how to get over it

Im realy sorry for you! its pretty hard to lose somebody close to you and you will propebly never get over it so you just gotta lurn to live with ith its hard in the beginning but it gets easier over the years, butt the sorrow will always be there!

I hope you'l be ok.

Demetriuz.

Sorry to hear about this,
I know a person who lost their mom quite a while back, When his mom died, they found it really hard but got back on track eventually. I hope do to.
At least you have happy memories,
All the best,
Gamerbird

Being agnostic I can't stat for sure if God exists or not, but ain't atheist, I fiercely believe in the goodness as I believe in the evilness. Just I think evilness being our own imperfections and not something that guide mankind.

Otherwise I think goodness don't implies "being good" only, to me it seems a high level planning where knowing the adversities are the ways we better ourselves. The justice being in that no one can avoid these lessons.

And we are learning the lesson, we are far from being able to says mankind is a good 'creation' but if we look at our history we can see we are becoming more conscious of ourselves and the world we inherited from our ancestors, albeit we can't avoid the sadness by how selfishness and greed and blindness contributed to turn the world a ever worse one to ourselves.

But is not mankind itself what is being in ordeal, the humanity that is the focus. Bettering mankind is bettering man, each one that steps toward consciousness, solidarity and the light, does this both to himself as for mankind as a whole.

No word can express the feeling such lost you are experimenting. No word in itself can change this but the certainty this feeling will be substituted by another, more bearable though not less deep. I fear English don't have the word for "saudade" albeit the feeling itself is known for everyone in all world. It means a feeling of "missing" and in a way it mean not the missing, instead is a 'presence' not present. Mild but assuring.

Now the better is yourself striving at being someone your father dreamed you being. Being a father myself I know nothing can better we knowing our sons being yet better ourselves.
The better is you going ahead in the life, caring yourself, caring for the ones that are intimate and caring for everyone, in the order you deem better, as you can.

It is sad but true that most people will outlive their parents. The inevitability doesn't make it easier to bear when it happens but will over time put things in perspective. It is natural to grieve. In time you will come to terms with it but it will take time. Support the others who need you now. That will help.

Pursue your passion and be there for the others in your life. No reason to go through this alone.

It should take your mind off it for a while.

The hurt will never go away, but you'll learn to deal with it. What choice do you have?

I know how you feel. I lost my father when I was 4 or 5. So I don't even have memories to remember him by really. Just a couple...

But, what you need to do, is just continue on your life. Try not to think of him too much. I know it sounds harsh. But, it will just make you sad again when you think of him alot. Also, later in life don't think what would he think of me now? Because he was your father, and no matter what you turn out to be he will always love you and always support you. Even from the afterlife.

*Note: I say afterlife in a general turn meaning where ever he may be now.

Do what people do in China. Go to his grave and actually speak, yes, out loud, to him. Have a cup of tea beside the stone and have a conversation with him for a few hours. Tell him how your day went and what things you have accomplished. It actually is soothing. It makes it feel like he never died. Make these spiritual meetings a constant routine until it feels like part of your life schedule. Bring your mother along too. Trust me, it feels good inside.

I sincerily hoped I helped.